Well, folks, I’ve done it again. My Super Mom moment of 2011: I am throwing a birthday party for my soon-to-be four year old. And I have laid down the law. No presents. No piñatas. No princess party entertainers. No goodie bags.
Next Saturday four moms from preschool are going to drop off four preschoolers. Here in our modest apartment we will don party hats and eat pasta and green beans. We will sing “Happy Birthday” (and eat cake—I’m not a total Party Tyrant). And then we will watch T.V. That’s the party. And I think the kids will love it.
I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “How does throwing the lamest party of all time make you Super Mom?”
It doesn’t. What makes me Super Mom is my decision to stand up to party peer pressure. I refuse to throw a birthday party that requires roughly the same amount of stress and planning as my wedding reception did. Don’t get me wrong. Parties are great. I love parties. But they’re not about the size of the venue or the length of the guest list or pile of presents. They’re about sharing and friendship. That’s why we are only inviting the kids we know really well.
At first I was terrified that some afternoon at preschool a mob of angry Moms would corner me and demand that their child be invited to my daughter’s party. How dare I exclude them! How dare I deviate from party protocol!
But then I realized that none of us wants to be part of the birthday party insanity. None of us wants to be pressured into throwing a party with thirty screaming kids cracked out on sugar, just as none of us wants to be pressured into picking out presents such as developmentally appropriate Melissa & Doug macramé kits when it’s our kid’s turn to be a guest in the rented Bouncy House. We are all looking for a way to jump off the birthday bandwagon.
When I informed Chiara what I’d planned she said, "Well, I have some things that I would like to have at my birthday party."
"I would like to have my friends play in my bedroom."
"And can I put my candles on the cake?"
"And can I have chocolate cake and pink frosting?"
Yes. Yes, of course you can.
And that’s why I am Super Mom. Because I can give my kid everything she wants for her birthday.